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Some people always seem to get what they want in life.“Successful people keep taking action…they make mistakes, but they don’t quit.” –Unknown
They clearly have inside information about what it takes to get ahead. Relationships, jobs, money, you name it; they come out on top. They never even seem to have a bad hair day. Life is seriously unfair.
But believe it or not, there’s no magic dust or genie access granting them their desires. They have a plan and work on it so regularly it almost appears second nature.
If you think it’s time to turn things around, then read on for what are really pretty simple steps to start steering your life in the right direction.
8 Steps to get Everything You Want in Life
1. Realize what you want to accomplish and how – Don’t think what you want “from” life, but think what you want “in” life. Simply putting focus on something can greatly increase its chances in occurring in your life.
2. Formulate a plan – Without having a plan, you’ll just keep spinning your wheels and nothing will get done. If your goal is to “create a better future,” write down careers that interest you, and then under each one, the way you can break into that career (i.e. education, training, volunteering)
3. Ask and be specific – It sounds so obvious, and yet sometimes we expect to get exactly what we want without being clear as to what it is. Have you been wanting a raise? Or maybe you are after that newly available position? Others won’t read your mind, so ask for it clearly and confidently.
4. Stop apologizing – You might catch yourself starting with, “I’m sorry to ask, but…” and later on following up with, “If not, it’s no big deal.” Don’t. You can still be polite without backing down. Apologizing for your want comes across as unconfident which can make your superior feel unconfident in granting it to you. Be strong! You have nothing to apologize for.
5. Make your gain their gain – If you get what you want, how does it help them? Will it lighten their workload? Will it mean a possible promotion for them in the future? Consider what the other person has to gain, and use these benefits as one of your selling points when asking for what you want. If your achievement affects their life positively, they will be more likely to help you in the future, as well.
6. Make yourself invaluable – We all want to be irreplaceable, so make it so. Work hard, become an expert in your field, build a great reputation as someone easy to work with – do whatever it takes to make it more inconvenient to replace you than it is to satisfy you. It’s easier to ask for something when your past accomplishments speak for themselves.
7. Be prepared for your want to be fulfilled – You may have spent years daydreaming about the prestige that will come with that management position, but don’t get caught with drool on your chin when it’s time to take the reins. Prove that their decision to believe in you was the correct one. Remember: be careful what you wish for…it might just come true.
8. Persistence – Goals take time. Don’t give in too quickly. Just because you’ve gotten one or 10 (or even 100) “no’s,” it doesn’t mean you should move on. Try a new approach. If the front door is closed, try the back. Is the window open? What about the garage. It’s called perseverance.” Keep at it.
Remember, be clear about the goal and you’ll have a better chance achieving it. There really are specific steps to get you there, and unfortunately, you can’t just wish for it. Most importantly, believe in yourself. Without that faith you’ll never get what you want out of life.